Therapies for Premature Ejaculation
Men who suffer from premature ejaculation typically feel stressed and anxious over their condition. They tend to become anxious because of their sexual performance, and this could affect their relationship with their partner because it interferes with their intimacy and sexual health.
It is surprising to know that most men who experience premature ejaculation are actually completely healthy, and that the condition comes from a psychological condition, rather than a physical one. If you feel that your sexual performance is being affected, one of the avenues of treatment that you can explore is therapy.
There are two types of therapy that are popular when it comes to treating people who experience premature ejaculation on a regular basis; these therapies are sexual therapy, and cognitive behavioral therapy.
Cognitive Behavioral Therpy
There are men who experience premature ejaculation as a result of negative relationships or experiences in their past, which are strong enough to still affect their sexual performance in the present. For these people, the most effective treatment to cure their condition may be cognitive behavioral therapy. Also called talk therapy, this type of therapy involves counseling between a mental health care provider and the person experiencing premature ejaculation.
The aim of these counseling sessions is the reduce anxiety over sexual performance, as well as find ways to cope with stress. This kind of therapy is best suited for men who have no physical problems, but find that their premature ejaculation condition stems from psychological roots. Depending on the severity of the problem, some men may also take drugs during their cognitive behavioral therapy in order to make the therapy more effective.
Men who have a physical element to their premature ejaculation may find that sexual therapy is more effective compared to talk therapy. Sexual therapy often entails physical stimulation of the penis. For example, some doctors may recommend that you masturbate before you engage in sex, so that it helps delay your climax during coitus itself. Another popular method used in sexual therapy is called the squeeze method, which is conducted as such:
- Start sex as usual, until the moment that the male partner is almost ready to climax.
- Once the male partner feel the urge to climax, the other partner should squeeze the end of the penis, where the head meets the shaft. Hold the pressure until the urge to ejaculate passes.
- After the urge passes, the partners must wait for 30 seconds, and then resume sexual activity. This method may cause the penis to become less erect, but after some stimulation, the penis will become erect once more.
- Repeat the process throughout the sexual activity until both partners are ready to climax.
Many men who practice the squeeze technique report that they are successful in delaying climax until their partner is ready to climax as well. You can also practice the squeeze technique until you are more able to control your urge to climax, and the squeeze technique is no longer needed.
Other Therapies for Premature Ejaculation
There are other methods that you may wish to explore if you are suffering from premature ejaculation, such as:
- The Start-Stop Technique
Similar to the squeeze technique, the start-stop technique involves the male stopping before the point of climax, waiting for about 2-3 minutes for the sensations to calm down before resuming sexual activity. The penis must not be stimulated during these 2-3 minutes so that the male does not ejaculate.
- Slowing Down Method
Since ejaculation occurs when sexual activity peaks, the slowing down may work for some men in order not to reach that peak. When the male feels the urge to climax nearing, he slows down his sexual activity. Sometimes, removing physical stimulation to the penis may be necessary so that the slowing down method may work.
- Changing Positions
There are times when simply changing positions can help delay ejaculation. Not only does it stop penile stimulation, it also helps distract the male from the sexual activity so that he won’t be as ready to ejaculate.
If you are experiencing premature ejaculation due to penile sensitivity, loss of control during sex, or performance- based anxiety, one or both of these methods could be enough to help you gain control over your ejaculation urge so that you can perform better during sex.